Let’s now explore where your fear lives.
We are born with only two fears, the fear of falling and the fear of loud sounds, the rest are all created by our experiences, traumas, and indoctrination from those around us. Trauma does not have to be a huge incident in life, very often low-level trauma, such as children laughing at you in school, can create an enormous impact in the adult that grows unaware of the reason for his/her anxiety kicking in, when meeting new people or talking in public.
Overcoming such a challenge can be a creative and surprising process that brings life changing rewards.
Fear is the monster hidden deep into your subconscious, deep into your amygdala, storing all the important lessons of your life for your protection. Deep in your brain, your amygdala is always ready to help you. It really cares so much that can suffocate you overprotecting you, creating stress, anxiety and fear to the smallest of the stimuli. Your amygdala is also super-fast, like a grey hound, before you realise it has already analysed something and run to your rescue. Thank you for my panic! I hear you saying. So, kind of you!
So, as you can see, the key to stop anxiety and panic is not talking over and over about something. Let’s consider this, imagine for a moment that you were scared of driving, does it change if you talk about it, or do you feel scared even just thinking about driving? Fear of driving can be very limiting, and before you realise you feel isolated and losing out in social events or professionally. Exposure is a good tool, but how uncomfortable is that? How many times your amygdala will have to live this experience to learnt that actually is ok and you can indeed drive or make a presentation? Will your poor heart be at peace on those moments? To stop anxiety and panic we need to take a different approach.
Fear is a very uncomfortable companion and there are other approaches that are much kinder to stop anxiety and panic attacks.
But let us continue exploring this cycle. Let us see what happens when that fear starts creating stress and anxiety.
Relationships and removing limiting beliefs about money
I cannot put into words what a difference this has made to my life. I was feeling extremely anxious and the therapy that Maria has given me has helped tremendously. I found the sessions enjoyable and interesting and could see results after just the first session mainly focused on anxiety around my daughter and my ex-partner and anger towards certain people. I found all her BAGC6 tools extremely helpful and it made such a difference to my sense of wellbeing undertaking these tasks every day. I was excited to do them! After a couple of days of doing them, I felt so much calmer and happier and was feeling optimistic again and back to myself. In the first session, we did some work around how I could deal with my toddler in a more patient manner and the following day the technique Maria had showed me worked perfectly. I was really shocked at how quickly it worked. Once I dealt with this initial difficulty, I then started to work with finances and making money. Maria helped me to remove limiting beliefs about money, and again the tools that Maria gave me and the work at home around my financial situation and letting go of old patterns has really help. Also, what I love about the therapy is that the tools and recordings that Maria gave me are still there for me to use when I have a difficult time again. I have already recommended a friend to see Maria. I cannot thank you enough Maria for what you have helped me with.
Kerry – Bexhill on Sea
Emetophobia (Fear of vomiting or seeing vomiting) and anxiety. Inability to eat in public
“Now I can tolerate the fear of seeing or being sick and my anxiety is almost entirely gone. I can eat in public and my IBS has improved”
I worked with Maria by Skype and at the clinic. I did 6 sessions and I have reduced my anxiety by 95%, Emetophobia by 90% and I am now fully able to eat in public. The experience has been life changing and I found self-hypnosis very helpful. Now I can tolerate the fear of seeing or being sick and my anxiety is almost entirely gone. I can eat in public and my IBS has improved. The best thing I have achieved is taking some water to my boyfriend when he was throwing up!!
Maria does a great job.
Holly – London Office and Skype