When friends, family members and even the media call on you to be more confident, it comes as no surprise that most flounder. Confidence, after all, is a term encompassing an incredibly large breadth of mental and physical attributes. It’s not something you can simply pick up at a local store. Yet when you ask these proclaimers of this way of thinking how to achieve this transient state of being, they stutter, unable to even define a way to answer all your woes.
Finding confidence, much like success and happiness, is all on you, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. The mere fact that thousands of people all over the world have mastered this ideology is proof enough you can do it, too. Like many, though, you are no doubt unsure of where to even begin. How does one even define a concept that varies from culture to culture, from time period to time period? To do this successfully, you need to first understand what confidence is in your own terms and then reach out to teachers for guidance. They themselves have dedicated a lifetime to studying and practicing the art of building self-confidence as a means to reach a fulfilled, healthier, less anxious lifestyle.
Learning confidence is an important aspect of life many do not associate with health. Instead, it’s touted as a way to snag a job or perform well in front of a group of strangers during a presentation. However, lacking the belief in your ability to take on tough challenges and succeed leads to self-destructive tendencies. Instead of believing you have the power to work out, you avoid exercise altogether. Instead of assuming the presentation will go great, you admit defeat before it even happens, mentally extrapolating every negative outcome that has not and probably will not occur. This then spirals into anxiety and panic attacks.
While stress evolved as a natural response to save us from predation when we were still hunter gatherers, it has since fallen to the wayside. Instead of being produced as a means to survive, it activates for every minor altercation over the course of the day. For suffering anxiety, this means it remains switched on, flooding the body with hormones that get the blood pumping and energy rates skyrocketing. If not calmed down, this eventually blows up into a full blown panic attack, causing you to become short of breath and feel an impending doom. Research has found that sustained high levels of this inevitably lead to arrhythmias, heart attacks and death. It can even exacerbate current problems, like headaches. Some turn to smoking or drinking as a way to cope. Those that are sick take longer to recover. Basically, undue anxiety and stress in today’s world are nothing if not fatalistic tendencies according to the (American Psychological Association, 2013).
To deal with the numerous problems accumulated through time, many turn to therapy as a way to rationalize their anxious feelings by trying to talk down the childish demands of the subconscious—the part of our brain Western society has been at odds with ever since Freud revolutionized the field of Psychology. Modern techniques would have you try and beat the subconscious into some form of submission, but this is hardly beneficial considering it is such an integral part of the mind altogether. A major reason this negativity evolved is the fact that the subconscious is our means of survival. It is this portion that triggers mental duress during fight or flight situations and, therefore, is responsible for the harmful implications of continued stress (James, 2013).
We can then extrapolate from this that the subconscious is connected to confidence because belief in success reduces anxiety thus reducing the risk for heightened panic attacks. The belief system of the subconscious we grow into develops during a time we have little control over—our childhood. As helpless young, we need to establish very quickly right from wrong in order to ensure our survival, looking to our guardians and trusting everything they say. Once we mature, the subconscious quiets down but never fully goes away. This explains why when you are faced with a trigger, emotions come out stronger than logic, creating outbursts we try to avoid. It’s merely our child trying to cope with something it can’t understand.
Say, for instance, you were teased by your parents about your drawings as a child. They probably only meant to joke but your subconscious took it as a warning that drawing leads to ridicule, forcing you to put it away to avoid feeling shame. As you grow up, you decide to take a building design class. For one of the projects, they want you to draw your own building. It can be anything you want. Immediately, your eyes dilate, your heart beats faster, your palms sweat and before you lay visions of the class and teacher mocking you or failing you. You can’t sleep anymore because you’re so anxious. Eventually it degrades into a panic attack and you bolt out of the classroom on the day of your presentation even though nothing bad actually happened.
The real secret lies in delving down into the emotional root of the problem. All too often, our childhoods influence how we mentally treat ourselves in our adult years. If we were surrounded by parents that were anxious and were unable to deal with day-to-day stress in a healthy fashion, we would have grown up exhibiting these same behaviours because we would never have learnt alternative ways of expression (Seltzer, 2008). Same damaging effects could have similarly occurred when having to deal with difficult situations such as dealing with bullying in school, a teacher or person of authority giving us miss messages and causing us embarrassment, divorce of parents, abuse or even bereavement not properly dealt with. In other occasions, some events can also be very trivial and small to the eye of the adult, but cause a long and lasting impression. With this in mind, it’s safe to say the true beginnings of reduced stress lie in your ability to admit something is wrong. Without some sense of self-awareness, progress cannot be made. This is what the Beat Anxiety and Gain Confidence Programme is honed on. Its main idea addresses the scientifically validated fact that stress and anxiety come from more than just an overly active fight or flight response. It targets the primal fears and emotions that led to this lifestyle and lowered confidence. Once the identification is complete, these emotions can potential be thoroughly neutralized, leaving you with a blank slate on which we begin building a healthy level of confidence fortified by positivity. Because the anxiety will be targeted and negated, this inherently aids you in recovery from the physical ailments brought on by such prolonged mental abuse.
If you find yourself struggling with health problems and mental strain brought about by too many years of an overly anxious lifestyle, it’s time to make a change for the better before it’s too late. The 6-step BAGC 6 Programme is not simply sitting on a leather couch talking about bad things that happened that day. My Programme is aimed to obtain full recovery, isolating the real issue and dealing with it so that it doesn’t emerge later to impede your continued success. While we are taking care of the mental blockages, we are also working at a physical level to speed up your recovery.. Don’t sit around waiting for help to find you. Help comes to those that seek it out. You are stronger than you realize. It’s time to take charge and achieve full realization of who you are and what you are capable of. It’s time to find your inner confidence through the BAGC 6 Programme. The Anxiety & Panic Attacks Solutions in London
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Improved confidence
Social Anxiety
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Family separation
Akil II, B. (2010, April 30). The Science of Confidence. Retrieved from Pschology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-central/201004/the-science-confidence
American Psychological Association. (2013). How stress affects your health. Retrieved from American Psychological Association: http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/stress.aspx
James, M. B. (2013, July 30). Conscious of the Unconscious. Retrieved from Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/focus-forgiveness/201307/conscious-the-unconscious
Seltzer, L. F. (2008, September 10). The Path to Unconditional Self-Acceptance. Retrieved from Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/200809/the-path-unconditional-self-acceptance
Walton, A. G. (2011, June 10). Where Does Self-Confidence Come From? Retrieved from Forbes: http://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2011/06/10/where-does-self-confidence-come-from/